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Don’t Be Normal, Don’t Be Average

It seems as if we are always comparing ourselves and our life experience to everyone else’s. We use this comparison as a justification that we are doing what everyone else is doing and so we can keep believing we are okay.

Please stop using the norm and average as a baseline for what is good and acceptable.

You must begin to see that for most the norm is being frustrated, overweight, and in pain, (both physical and emotional). Does it truly make any sense to compare yourself and your life experience with a norm or average that is so dysfunctional? Yet this is exactly what we are doing.

What we would like to do is look to those who are living and achieving what it is that we desire and use them as the true norm. This true norm is the true norm of what it means to be healthy and well, joyful and fulfilled, financially comfortable and abundant.

Can you see how most of us are looking at the wrong conditions and making the assumption that we are doing okay because everyone else we know is in the same boat?

This makes no sense at all. We must break free form our ignorance to the way we are perceiving.

Many people say they want to be healthy, but they don’t look to those who are truly healthy to ask how are they doing it. Instead they only look at the people around them and how they are going about their days and then compare themselves.

Many times when working with a new client we ask about their eating. Very often the response will come that” I eat pretty healthy, I don’t need any coaching with that”.

How are they making that judgment? Most of the time it is coming from a place of not wanting to change their eating habit for fear of realizing they were not eating healthy.

The ego defended its position and said I don’t need to change.

Yet, when we see their food journals it is glaringly obvious that they are not eating healthy at all. They have created a false concept that they eat better than the average, because they think about eating better, but never actually do so.

When we sit down with them and actually go through their journals and show them what they are taking in, it is hard to deny their misjudgment. We are able to show clients what true healthy eating is and then compare how they have been eating and what they thought was healthy.

Once this is achieve it is much easier for a person to make the changes needed to give the body what it needs to health.

The same can be said for most things in your life experience. Including your finances, relationships, career, education, etc.

The first thing to do is find those who are truly exceptional in living and creating what you desire. See how they do it and then without judgment compare it to how you are doing it. Do not compare yourself to the norm, because they are no better off than where you are. If you do look at the average, then you will come to the conclusion that you are doing all right.

If you want a successful career, find those who have created them, and find out how they did it. If you desire to have deep meaningful relationships, seek out those who are living them. If you want to create financial wealth find those who have demonstrated again and again that they can do it. And if you desire to free yourself from the pain and suffering of the ego, reach out to those who have realize their true nature.

Invest in yourself. This should be your main focus. When you truly desire to create something, you must invest in yourself.

The average person never truly steps up and invests in himself or herself enough to create what is desired. Yes, they may start off with good intentions, however they don’t follow through. You need to follow through and stay the course. When things get challenging continue to follow through. Find your way around or through.

The average will give up and say it is too hard, or it can’t be done. Yet, there are always people who have pushed through and achieved.

You see the norm is conditioned to give up when it gets hard. This is sad but true.

So I ask you, does comparing yourself to the norm inspire you to go beyond, or leave you with the sense of “I’m okay as long as everyone else is in the same situation?” If it is the latter, you will always struggle.

Go beyond the norm. Stay above the average. This is your life expression, and only you have the ability to create it. Be exceptional.

The time is now, not sometime in the future for you to create health and wellness. See this moment as the critical point of changing your life around.

Do you want to be healthy, fit, and enjoy a deep sense of wellbeing and abundance? Then let go of every idea, and attachment to the contrary.

Are you ready to change your life experience? Are you ready to begin enjoying health, fitness, wellbeing, and abundance?

If so, I want to help you.

It takes one simple step. You just have to ask.

I wish for you a Vibrant Life.

Take Good care, Dave.

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