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I Do Care, I Just Don’t Mind

It is said from time to time that “It is not that I don’t care, it is that I don’t mind.”  When it is used in the English language and coming from the person or ego there is a basic explanation that not minding has a softer feeling to it, while not caring has a colder meaning.


For example to say I don’t mind if I am late to the seminar feels softer than I don’t care if I am late to the seminar. This means I do care if I am late to the party, however, I do not take it personally. There can also be a practical way to resolve to be late.

This can get a bit confusing, yet it is at the key to what we are always speaking about. What is it that would take a situation personally? It can only be the person/ego. The person/ego is also the mind. So to say I don’t mind now comes with deeper insight.

To not mind can mean there is no ego/mind there anymore to be offended or take the situation personally. Without this ego/mind no matter what happens there isn’t the flashback reaction of how does this make me feel on an identity level. It is the attachment from identity that makes the difference.

If you are (ego) attached to thoughts and situations, you will always mind, even when it feels you don’t. This is because it is still the ego, which is not minding, and in this not minding the ego is still strengthening its existence.

Whatever the ego does, there is still the subtle identification of a “me” who is not minding. If I asked you who does not mind, and you say “I don’t” then who is this “I”? Is it you the person, with all your beliefs and perceptions? I don’t mind means you do not object or identify or find insult with what is happening or said. However, just because something is happening and you do not object to it does not mean that you don’t care to take steps to resolve it.

For you and I, the deeper meaning is to say the mind is not there anymore to make a perception of whether the ego/persona holds any meaning for it.


When the mind/ego is gone all that is left is love and compassion. It is this love and compassion that manifests as caring. Always remember, that what you think you are is just thought. That is why you “think” you are. If you let go of thoughts of yourself, what would remain is the Divine True Nature, free from all conditioning, free from the mask of personality/ego.

All this time you have been pretending to be yourself as your conditioning instead of your True Nature. Stop pretending to be something you are not. You are not a mask of thoughts. Our health and well-being lay in awakening to our True Nature and letting go of the habit of identity with all its fears of non-existence.

In truth it is only a conditioned response or habit in believing in an identity.  Giving meaning to thoughts and events and holding onto them as part of a false identity is what causes all the pain and suffering.  Holding onto a false sense of your true Self is the cause of pain and suffering. It is not needed and does not give this life experience any true joy and peace.

All that is needed is the realization that you do not require a made-up, (false), identity to exist. The time is now, not sometime in the future for you to create health and wellness. See this moment as the critical point of changing your life around.

Do you want to be healthy, fit, and enjoy a deep sense of well-being and abundance? Then let go of every idea, and attachment to the contrary.

If so, let me help you. It takes one simple step. You just have to ask for help. Pick up the phone or email us at our website, or send a private message on Facebook or Instagram.

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